And your Priorities are Where?

When do you say enough is enough? Move on, Throw in the towel, Get you priorities in order NOW! With that in mind, I have had a friend going through a pretty tough time recently. The news he received this week, is pretty major and completely unexpected. You might say, well, this will change his life.

First a little back round.....

We dated a long time ago, and since have become very good friends. He is a doll, his looks could kill and he has a kick-ass personality to go along with that beautiful face. After we had stopped dating, he met someone he fell hard for, and I mean hard. They only dated for three months, and still he can not get over her. (keep in mind the breakup happened almost 10 months ago) Now I understand that getting your heart broken can be hard, trust me when my five year relationship ended, I never thought I would get over it. However hard it was I knew that there is life after a failed relationship. So anyways, I have been trying to help him see that there are other girls out there for him, I advised him he doesn't have to get serious, but having a little fun can be good for the bruised heart.
This went on for a while, and I was beginning to worry, he continuously mentioned her. "Should I call her?", "Do you think I should stop by her work?" Well my advise was no. Let me explain, he sent her roses, and she became very upset, changed her number & blocked him off of her myspace. So I think that was a pretty good indicator that he was achieving stocker status in her eyes. I hate to see him hurt, but at the same time he is hurting more by holding on to someone who has no love back.
The hardest thing for me to understand about this is, he is so good looking, and such a sweet person. But I also understand it can take time to heal a broken heart.

Moving forward to a few weeks ago, we were working out and he tells me he has a date! I was so excited, finally he was taking that step to moving forward. He was also thinking about moving back to Arizona, which is also awesome, because I know he loves it there. So the conversation was good upbeat, happy even. He told me that he was moving on, he didn't need her anymore..... What a relief!

So this week, I get several texts and missed calls from him.... I call back thinking, O my gosh I hope he is OK. So he tells me he has news that will effect his relationship with the girl, (ok I am thinking HHHMMM I thought we had moved on) So he is beating around the bush, and I had to practically beat it out of him... Finally, he tells me, the girl I had a date with is pregnant.... WHAT? WHAT? I said..... Did you not use protection? "Well he tells me, She said she couldn't get pregnant". I was in shock, 3 times, yes 3 times they went out, and now he is tied to her forever...


Well he is pretty calm about the situation, and I am panicking more than him. I mean this is a big deal, and I can not understand how he can be so poised. He is more worried about how the girl will feel about this, Yes the girl he has not spoken to in almost 10 months! WHAT, I mean WHAT????? This is something that will forever change your life, and not to mention, you hardly know the girl who is going to be your baby's momma!

So this week, we talk again, I am concerned about how he is doing. Once again he is a mess. Instantly I am thinking that it has to do with the baby, and the girl.... Wrong, wrong again. He saw on someone's myspace, that the girl called him a stalker... Well are you really surprised? I mean really where the hell are your priorities? He is one of my good friends, but I just don't understand his way of thinking. It makes no sense! He was just given news that will change his life forever, and he is more worried about a girl he doesn't even talk to anymore.

Well I have no idea how to be there for him anymore. I have tried to help him move on, and tried to be as gentle as possible, but how much is enough? I am dumbfounded, there is no other way to describe it.

Well this is me venting, hit me up with any advice. PLEASE!