~ Important lessons I have learned that have made me who I am ~
1) My parents were/are right about 95% of the time in the advice they have given me and continue to give me.
2) I justly believe you can count your true friends on one hand. My Dad has been telling me this all my life and the more I grow in life, the more I realize this is true. Because true friends are not only real to your face, but also stand up for you when you’re not there to defend yourself.. Time does not exist between true friends, no matter how much time has passed when you see them it's like you saw them yesterday. Judgments and lies are non-existent between each other; because there is no reason to lie. Most importantly True friends are there when things are tough; they ride the storm right beside you.
3) True friends will NEVER ask you to choose, manipulate, intentionally hurt, or make demands from you (this goes for a partner/significant other as well). Partnerships and Friendships are about communication between each other. When a person makes demands on you, gets angry at you for petty situations, treats you badly and disappears when things get tough ~ that person is not a true friend.
4) You can't make a person change, they will only change if they want too - no matter how hard you try, or stay. Same goes for you. You have to want to change. (Drugs will ALWAYS or 90% of the time overpowers the relationship). Is this harsh, yes - but I have seen this too many times and lost friends because of this. If a person does not want help, there is not much you can do. The best thing you can do for them is try to get them help, or remove yourself completely. No matter how hard it is for you or them. This also goes for physical and emotional abuse. I know it is easier said than done, I have been in both situations before and it takes a lot of courage. One Step at a time.
4) You can't make a person change, they will only change if they want too - no matter how hard you try, or stay. Same goes for you. You have to want to change. (Drugs will ALWAYS or 90% of the time overpowers the relationship). Is this harsh, yes - but I have seen this too many times and lost friends because of this. If a person does not want help, there is not much you can do. The best thing you can do for them is try to get them help, or remove yourself completely. No matter how hard it is for you or them. This also goes for physical and emotional abuse. I know it is easier said than done, I have been in both situations before and it takes a lot of courage. One Step at a time.
5) Life happens; it won't stop for you or anyone. It will run you over if you let it. You do have a choice; you can make the best of it or waste it away. One chance is all we get to live on this earth, choose wisely. If you should get a second chance with someone, don’t ruin or waste it.
6) If you are honest with yourself and accept what is, it doesn't matter what other's think. The truth always has a way of coming out. It is true what they say about the truth setting you free. All you need is to trust that and you can survive, it’s not easy, but if you believe in yourself, and are honest, happiness has a way of finding you.
7) “Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions” This is by far one of the most important lessons I have learned this past year. NEVER let ANYONE make you feel less than what you are. If they can't accept you for you, they are not worth your time. Trust me on this.
Don't EVER take them for granted, you never know when they won't be there. In a blink you could lose what is most precious. It happens, I know. You may think material things are important, until you lose what's inside. This I can't fully explain, the best way I can explain is to say appreciate what you have been given naturally and take in all the little things around you, appreciate your talents and use what you have and live, live everyday as if it is your last.
Lastly ~
~ Healing begins when you allow it too ~
K@tes
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